How to Afford to Be a Stay at Home Mom

Not long ago somebody told me that it must be nice to be able to afford to stay home. I wanted to say... You could do this too! Have a garden, make all your meals from scratch, buy all your clothes from yard sales, don't eat out, don't waste money on entertainment, etc. I didn't say that however because to her, it was to radical! They didn't think they could live on less than $30,000 a year. We have never made more than $30,000 a year since I have been home and we have five children, they only had one.

Making a choice to purposefully live below the poverty line isn't a choice many are willing to make. We have chosen this lifestyle and God has blessed it. Here are some things we have done to make our money s-t-r-e-t-c-h.

When we were "poorest" we didn't have Internet, cable, or cell phones. We also didn't buy clothes. We each had a couple "go to town" outfits and the rest were only worn at home to make the nice clothes last. I only hung our clothes out to dry. We did not eat out at all. We also didn't use our air conditioning so I would bake and clean in the morning and then we went outside if it was warm. 

I bought our toys at yard sales. Home school curriculum was only a phonics book and nature walks. Our children didn't get allowances, we couldn't afford it. Now that we have (almost) two teenagers and older children we use 4-H as a method for them to earn money. The oldest three each raise a market animal every summer.  We have a yearly yard sale to buy extras for our school or fun books. We still buy 99% of stuff we want from yard sales or Goodwill.

We own two older paid in full vehicles. We do the maintenance ourselves. We also limit our trips into town. My goal for the summer is to only leave the house three days a week. 

I plant a large garden every year. I haven't mastered the art of starting plants from seed, so I purchase flats of plants. I have spent around $40.00 this year on plants. One of the best decisions I have made is planting red raspberries, strawberries, and blueberries. We planted those as soon as we moved to our home and it has saved us hundreds of dollars.  The last two years we picked enough berries to freeze and last all winter!

Clothing can quickly be a budget buster. Here's my method for looking our best while saving the most. We have "home clothes" and "go to town" clothes.  Our home clothes are clothes that might be stained up or well worn. It doesn't matter though, because we're busy climbing trees, swimming in the creek, jumping on the trampoline, or frolicking with our dairy goats.  Our "go to town" clothes are reserved for when we leave the farm. By doing this each person might only need four or five nice shirts and a couple pairs of shorts or pants. 

I believe that God will bless your efforts in raising your children. It won't be easy. My husband has had many layoffs and injures that cost us months without any income but we have always stayed true to our calling. There will be times you want to quit. It is so worth it my friend. I wouldn't trade my time with my children for anything in the world.

This post is linked to Making Your Home Sing Monday 

Food Stamp Monthly Breakfast and Lunch Meal Plan

One of the biggest stresses of living on food stamps is making sure you plan well enough to have enough food for the month. Our family is blessed because when my husband is working overtime we are able to purchase extra food if needed, but for some families they cannot. They must survive only on their food stamps. We are also blessed that we are able to have a garden. We actually have two very large gardens with established red raspberries, strawberries, asparagus, and blue berries. Once gardening season kicks in we typically do not need to purchase fruit or vegetables often.

So, the question is, how do I meal plan for our $417 budget? Before the start of each month, I sit down with my calendar and pantry/freezer inventory list and make a detailed meal plan. I include breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. I try to plan crock pot meals for our busiest nights and quick and easy meals for days that I will be working in the garden.  I also plan around the weather, our farmhouse was built in 1831 and has no air conditioning so I plan to grill on extremely warm days.

 Our Monthly Rotating Breakfast Plan:
*Monday- muffins. (I make several types of muffins and freeze them so they're available even when it's too warm to cook.)
* Tuesday- pancakes. (We eat gluten free so I also make a month's worth of pancake mix to save time in the kitchen.)
* Wednesday- baked peanut butter oatmeal (this can be mixed the night before or frozen as well)
* Thursday- cereal ( this is on our menu because I found all natural gluten free cereal for $.79 a box)
* Friday- gluten free snicker doodle coffee cake ( I also make monthly coffee cake mixes)
* Saturday- cereal
* Sunday- bacon/pancakes

Obviously once the weather (finally!) warms up I won't be using the oven as much. Instead of coffee cake and baked oatmeal we will have smoothies, toast and eggs, and yogurt and fruit.

Our Monthly Rotating Lunch Plan:
* Monday- gluten free mac and cheese ( purchased at Aldi for $1.49 a box) and carrot sticks
* Tuesday- grilled cheese ( I purchase a large loaf of Udi's gluten free bread at Costco for $6.97)
* Wednesday- gluten free pasta ( I purchase whenever I see it under $2 a package)
* Thursday- peanut butter sandwiches/apple slices
* Friday- quesadilla ( I purchase fresh gluten free corn tortillas at Kroger for $2 a package)
* Saturday- grilled hot dogs or something quick and easy
* Sunday- I struggle with Sundays because we're usually not home from church until 12:30. I typically try to have leftovers available.

This menu isn't set in stone. If we have leftovers we eat those instead and save that days meal for another time.

Snack Choices:
* carrots, cucumbers, apples, bananas, various berries, peanut butter on crackers, popcorn, no bake cookies, homemade gluten free chocolate chip cookies.

Once the garden is going we have free choice of anything ready to eat.

Linking up with Making Your Home Sing Monday

True Confessions

The articles are everywhere, " How to Survive on Food Stamps", " Stretching Your Food Stamp Dollars",  and my personal favorite is the articles where the author pretends to eat for a month using a food stamp allowance.  The issue with all of these? 95% of these articles are written by people who do not have to depend on food stamps to purchase their food. If they get hungry or run out of their allotted food stamp dollars they can purchase more food.

I titled this post "True Confessions" because my family and I receive food stamps. My husband works a full time job and I am a stay at home mother. I am also a breast cancer survivor and living with mild congestive heart failure due to damage done from the chemotherapy. We have five children ages fifteen, twelve, ten, eight, and six. Our eight year old has many developmental issues and autism ( as a side note, I was also pregnant with her while undergoing chemotherapy, which we believe could have caused some of the developmental issues).

My husband works at a local factory and brings home about $1600 a month, during the summer they work 50-60 hours a week and we eat like kings, but the rest of the year he might only work 20 hours a week.  Our family of seven receives $417 a month in food stamps.

I will be beginning a series May 1 on how our family eats on a food stamp budget. I plan to include our monthly meal plan, grocery receipts, budget stretching tips, how we eat gluten free/ real food diet on a tight budget and where I find the best deals on food.

I understand that some readers might feel angry that we receive any benefits, and that you do not want to support others with your hard earned money and that's okay if you feel that way. I felt that way too before I was diagnosed with cancer and my husband had to drop out of college and quit his job to take care of me and our three young children. Our plans never included using food stamps or being one of the faces of the working poor.  My hope is that this series will give hope to anyone struggling to feed their families on a tight budget.

This post is linked to The Modest Mom and Mom's the Word and Growing Homemakers

Grocery Saving Tips for Large Families

It can seem impossible to feed a large family on a budget, but it can be done! I feed our family for $400 a month, and we aren't eating ramen noodles. We eat a gluten free, real food diet due to allergies and a daughter with autism.

One of my favorite ways to save money is to create a price book. I know, it can be tedious to set one up but once you do you'll be amazed at home much money you'll save. I always thought Costco would be the cheapest for shredded cheese, but GFS has a better price by a $1.00 per pound.  Our local Aldi is more expensive than Costco when it comes to butter by $.50 a pound.

Here are some tips to starting your price book. I used to use a notebook but recently I've starting entering certain prices into my cell phone so I always have the lowest prices available while I'm grocery shopping.

* Write down your most common things you purchase weekly at the grocery store. My top weekly purchase are milk, pop for my husband's lunch, strawberries and other fruit, yogurt, and lunch meat.

* Some people recommend that you write down the three cheapest prices per store. I only keep track of the cheapest price per store. Make sure you note what size is the cheapest.

* I keep track of the following stores: Aldi, Kroger, Gordon Food Service (GFS), Costco, and Walmart.

* Each month add three or four new ingredients to your price book. If you try to do it all at once, you might get overwhelmed and give it up. Baby steps!

* I also shop a variety of close out stores like Big Lots, Ollies, and local Amish bent and dents. I note things that I've found at these places but I don't normally use those as price points because their stock changes so much.  For example, a few months ago I found gluten free mac and cheese at Ollie's for $.89 and our favorite gluten free granola bars for $1.25 a box. I bought several ( as in 20 or more) boxes because I know that price won't come around often.

Do you use a price book? Have you found it helpful in saving money?


This post is linked to Making Your Home Sing Monday

Feeding a Family of Seven for $400 a Month

What can a family of seven eat on a $400 monthly budget? Here's our bi-monthly meal plan. My family includes my husband, myself, our fifteen year old son, and our four daughters ages twelve, ten, eight, and five.
 Please note that the recipes I linked to don't call for gluten free flour but I just use my mix cup for cup. I have also included in bold print what activities we have for each day so you can see that a busy family can still eat on a budget.

Week of March 2-8
Sunday
b- chocolate chip muffins
L- beef vegetable soup
D- leftover vegetable soup

Monday (A Little Princess play practice and 4-H officer training)
b- leftover chocolate chip muffins
L- leftover beef vegetable soup
D- tacos

Tuesday
B- gluten free pancakes
L- gluten free pasta
D- oven fried chicken (we use gf flour), mashed potatoes, green beans

Wednesday (home school co-op, 4-H meeting, and awana)
B- bacon/gf toast
L- pack lunches include: sandwich/fruit/chips/cookie
D- take along dinner includes: sandwich/fruit/chip/cookie

Thursday (Classical Heritage Academy and gymnastics)
B- cereal
L- pack lunches includes: soup/fruit/chips/jerky/cookie
D- crock pot chili

Friday (gymnastics open gym)
B- snicker doodle coffee cake (we use gf flour)
L- gluten free mac and cheese
D- homemade pizza

Saturday (ballet and home school spring ball)
B- cereal
L- grilled cheese/salads
D- homemade fast food includes: gf chicken nuggets/fries

March 9-15
Sunday (church)
b- bacon/eggs
l- crock pot potato soup
d- Paleo wings and fries

Monday ( play practice)
b- chocolate chip muffins
L- Mac and cheese
D- tacos

Tuesday
B- pancakes
L- leftovers
D- meatloaf/mashed potatoes/green beans

Wednesday (home school co-op and awana)
B- baked peanut butter oatmeal
L- pack lunches
D- hamburgers/fries

Thursday (Classical Heritage Academy and gymnastics)
B- cereal
L- pack lunches includes: soup/pasta
D- pulled pork , coleslaw, fries

Friday ( gymnastics open gym)
b- coffee cake
L- leftovers
D- homemade pizza

Saturday ( ballet and picking up new goats)
b- cereal
L- leftovers
D- chili

This is linked to I'm an Organizing Junkie

Thriving on a Shoestring

We are a family of seven living on under $30,000 a year.  We must live very frugally to afford our lifestyle. Each month we must sit down and decide where our money is going to go. Winter is a very slow time at my husbands job. It isn't unusual for his monthly paychecks to be for under $1500.00

Here's a break down of our current budget:
rent $685
electricity $150
gas for the cars $200
Internet $25
cell phones $200
ballet $50
hay/feed $50
household/groceries $400

If you add that up it totals $1760.00, which means we have no wiggle room and often have to cut back on  various things.  If you noticed the lack of car insurance that's because we pay yearly at tax return time. We also heat exclusively with a wood burner so we don't have a propane/gas bill.  Our gas budget for our cars is high due to the fact that we live about 15 miles outside of town.

Join me for a series to learn how we manage to not only live but thrive on a shoestring budget. I'll touch on homeschooling, grocery shopping, frugal farming, and other topics.

Welcome!

Welcome to the Big Blue House!

I'll be sharing our adventures in starting our family farm, cooking gluten free on a penny budget, homeschooling while getting things done on the farm, and still staying somewhat sane!!